Over the past few years, communications technology has advanced greatly. Now, you can do almost everything using just your smartphone. Unfortunately, this also includes cheating on your partner. So, if you suspect your boyfriend is unfaithful, check his phone habits. These can reveal a lot of clues that something suspicious is going on.
It does not matter if you have just started going out or have been together for a long time. Most of the time, when you feel your partner is not entirely faithful, something is going on. Still, you should never jump to conclusions, before making sure he is doing the wrong thing.
Common signs to look for
There is no foolproof way to uncover if your partner is unfaithful. However, here are some signs that can help you make sure the guy is hiding something on his device:
Secretive behavior
A cheating partner would not want you to see whom he is texting or what he is doing on his iPhone. Whenever you enter the room, he will quickly close any open applications and lock the device. If he is talking on the phone, he will hang up as soon as he sees you coming. Most of the time, he goes to another room to take these “mysterious” calls.
Many cheaters hide their phones from their partners. They know that it can contain a lot of evidence and traces of their affair. That is why they will not even leave the phone charging in the room. They would rather charge it through a power bank. When they sleep, they put the device under their pillows. Some guys even purchase another secret phone to be on the “safe side”.
If your man is strangely guarding his phone, this is a red flag. It is not certain that he is cheating. However, he is definitely hiding something on it. Otherwise, he would just leave it lying around the house.
The phone is always face down
It is not normal for someone in a relationship to suddenly become super protective of his phone. Most probably, he is hiding something and does not want you to see it. That is why he will always keep his device face down, whenever you are around. So, he is afraid that you will catch a notification that he does not want you to see.
With the phone facing down, the chances of you reading the name or number of the person calling him are slim. So, he can lie to you about who was on the message, call or chat. Whatever the situation is, one thing is certain. He does not want you to see his iPhone screen.
Silent or flight mode is always On
Putting the phone on silent mode is the habit of some people. Ring tones and notification alerts can become irritating. However, if that is not a regular habit of your partner, you need to watch out. If he keeps in silent mode only around you, he might hide an affair.
Some unfaithful men switch off their phones or put them on flight mode at home. Even if it’s on silent mode, they also disable the vibration option. This ensures that you will not probably notice any incoming calls, texts, or other notifications he receives.
Changing the passcode
Not all boyfriends share the passcode with their girlfriends. However, it is alarming if he did share the passcode with you, and then suddenly changed it for no reason. This means he wants you to stay out of his smartphone.
Some people need to protect their privacy. However, if you have been in the relationship for a long time, he should trust you. The secrecy does not stop with his device’s passcode. A guy with bad will will never share the passwords of his social media accounts with you.
Cheating partners know well that a smartphone absorbs evidence like a sponge. So, they can never fully clean the traces of their affair from their devices. Thus, for them, it is safer to keep their content a secret and lock you out.
Spending more time on the phone
Nowadays, people are spending more and more time on their phones. From checking the news to watching your favorite series, smartphones have endless uses. However, if your boyfriend is noticeably spending more time online than he used to, keep your eyes open.
Try to find out what he is doing online. Is he texting or watching videos? When you get close to him, does he quickly close the phone? Does he ignore certain calls and texts more instead? All these are alarming signs that your man is talking to or texting other girls.
Empty call and chat history
It is not normal for someone to have an empty call log and chat history. This means your partner is regularly deleting this information from the device. He is hiding his traces, so you will not find out whom he is calling or chatting with. This is a clear sign that someone is dishonest, unless he has some logical explanation.
How to find out the truth?
Smart cheaters usually delete and hide any traces on their phones. However, they can never fully hide or remove the evidence of their affair from a smartphone. Here are some of them:
Check battery usage
As mentioned before, cheaters usually use their phones to communicate with other women. Furthermore, they spend a lot of time talking and texting. Now, to find out what your guy has been doing on the Internet or apps, check the battery usage and screen time features. They can tell you a lot.
On iPhone:
Open Settings. Then, choose “Screen Time”.
Select “See All Activity”.
Now, if there are any dating apps, hidden tools, or so, you can see them from the time they’re spending online.
On Android Phones:
- Open Settings.
- Go to “Device Care”.
- Select “Battery”.
Now, you will be able to see which apps were used the most and for how long. If most apps were social media and communication tools, try to find out more. This means he is certainly spending a lot of time talking or chatting with someone.
Track his search history
Unfaithful partners always leave some kind of evidence behind. So, even if they cleared the call log and chat history, you might still find something. Try to check their search history on social media platforms. For example, on Facebook, you can see all the things you have searched for on the app.
So, if you have his Facebook password, or can open the app, check his search history. You might find a clue about whom he is cheating with. Most likely, her account will appear in his recent search list.
Ask him to use his phone
Put him on the spot. Make any excuse to use your boyfriend’s phone. You can say you cannot find your device and need to call your number or something similar. If he refuses, it can be a sign he is doing it behind your back.
Check his social media accounts
To do this trick, you need to know the passwords of your boyfriend’s social media accounts. You will not need to open his phone. Instead, use your computer to log into his accounts. Search his chat history for words like, love, miss you, date, and so on. This will direct you to the specific chats where this word was written.
Also, check the chats with his close friends. He might have opened up to some of them about his affair. Do not forget to look at his video and audio call log on social media platforms, like Facebook and Instagram.
Confront him
Once you have collected enough evidence, you can confront your partner. Try to catch him off guard. This way, he will not be able to quickly come up with a smart lie. Ask him to end your agony and make it sound like he is doing you a favor by coming clean. All this might encourage him to confess if he is cheating. If not, he will be eager to show you proof that he is faithful. In all cases, talking to your boyfriend is a must at some point.
The definition of cheating is subjective. It differs from one person to another. So, before calling out your man, you need to make sure you are both on the same page. Let him know what your red lines are. For some people, being flirty online means nothing. Others, consider this unacceptable if you are in a relationship.
Remember, if your boyfriend is dishonest in the relationship, it has nothing to do with you as a person. That says more about the unfaithful partner and his insecurities or other issues. After getting to the bottom of things, do not isolate yourself. Try to spend time with your family and friends. If you want, you can see a therapist to get over being cheated on.
A healthy relationship should never be built on doubt and suspicion. Work with your partner to restore the lost trust between you!
