It can be a confusing process when you have been texting somebody every day and then they suddenly stop. Also, it can feel like they’ve almost fallen off the planet entirely. Luckily, there are signs to look out for that explain exactly what he might be thinking and what his reasons for stopping replying are.
Not interested
Whilst it can be a harsh reality to think of, there is the possibility that he just isn’t into you. Maybe the conversation was slow-flowing or there just wasn’t a spark there. But either way, if he has just stopped talking to you, then this could be a sure sign that he isn’t into you. If your conversation naturally fizzled out, then this could be because there wasn’t enough that you had in common. So there were no sparks flying between yourselves. If the guy loves you, you’ll notice other behavior instead.
Schedule Issues
You need to remember that you’re probably in the early dating phase. So you don’t really know his schedule yet, what he does with his free time, or the hours in which he is working. He could simply be busy, just because he isn’t replying straight away doesn’t mean that he isn’t still interested in getting to know you.
Taken already
It might be a tough one to comprehend. But he could have been talking to other people at the same time as you, and now he has become more serious with one of the other girls that he’s talking to.
Often in the dating game, people speak to a whole variety of people to keep their options open. This is commonplace and makes a lot of sense. When a guy becomes more committed to a specific girl, he will often stop replying to other girls and “ghost” them.
Ghosting is where a person suddenly cuts all contact and ties with somebody and appears to literally have disappeared. This has become a more common phenomenon since the development of online dating.
Emotional immaturity
One reason that he may have ghosted you is because they are not emotionally mature enough to maintain a relationship where feelings develop. A lot of men want to just hook up and not have commitments because they aren’t emotionally developed enough to have a committed relationship.
Personal problems
Another reason in which they may be ghosting you is that they have problems going on in their personal life. Often, they won’t feel comfortable enough to tell you what is going on in their life because your relationship is at a level not quite developed enough for them to tell you deep and personal things. This can feel difficult to deal with. However, the likelihood is that when his problems are resolved, he will get back in contact.
Mental health
A common reason that people will ghost you is because of feelings of anxiety and mental health problems. People often have fears of abandonment and won’t let people get too close to them, as it then gives them the power to abandon them. Trust issues are a major reason that people ghost others. That’s because they often worry that they can put their heart and trust in somebody only to have it shattered in the long run.
Use you
A sad but all-too-real reason that people often ghost others is because they want something from you. Whether they wanted something sexual, financial, or simply to ease their boredom, they may have got what they wanted from you. And so now they have no need to speak to you. Often, people who use others have their intent set right from the start. Thus, there is nothing to blame yourself for, you just chose a rotten egg.
Fear of commitment
A common reason that men ghost you is because they can see the relationship developing, and this is what they don’t want to happen. A lot of men don’t want to commit to a relationship. They just see dating apps and speaking to people as a way to ease boredom, or they simply want a booty call.
If your relationship appears to be becoming more committed and serious, then he might think that the easiest way to let you down is to simply just ghost you. That’s because they don’t have to be held accountable or experience the awkwardness of having a conversation with you where they explain why they don’t want commitment to you.
Reminder
One reason that men will ghost you is because you have started to remind them of a bad experience they had with a woman or simply just of an ex. In fact, men have toxic relationships as well, and if you start to remind him of her. Then this is a sure way for your relationship to cut off quickly. When men are faced with a reminder of such a big problem from their past, it is commonplace for them to cut off this new situation to stop history from repeating itself.
Cheating
Quite often, some of the men that you are talking to online already have a wife or girlfriend, and they are cheating by talking to you. It is important to remember that you’re not the one at fault as the other women. That’s because it isn’t you who is supposed to be in a committed relationship.
Sometimes, when a man is cheating, he will be secretive over his phone, which is a red flag for their partner. They could have found out that he is talking to you and have made him delete the app. When a man is caught out, he can often feel guilt and remorse, and so he will immediately cut ties with anybody that he has been conversing with when he was already in a committed relationship.
Sometimes men can get paranoid that they are about to be found out. So they will delete apps and go completely off the radar temporarily with no warning. This is to prevent them from being found out.
